It’s full of honesty and compassion that you’ve shared this. In Jainism, the core is ahimsa (non-violence), satya (truth), and aparigraha (non-attachment/renunciation of selfish desires). Your love and care for her, and your commitment to non‑violence, align with these principles. Here are some Jain‑centered thoughts to consider as you move forward:

• Respect for consent and free will: Any decision about marriage or joining Jain practice must be voluntary by both partners. Conversion (if chosen) should be a personal, sincere choice, not something done to please others or under pressure from families.
• Clear, honest communication: Continue open, compassionate dialogue with her and with her family. Share your values, your hopes for a peaceful life, and your readiness to respect their views while staying true to your own conscience.
• Non‑violence in all relationships: Practicing ahimsa means avoiding coercion, harassment, or conflict. If family dynamics become toxic or controlling, set healthy boundaries and seek support from trusted mentors or elders within the Jain community.
• Family harmony within Jain values: Jainism respects the dignity of every individual and emphasizes peaceful living. If you pursue marriage, aim to build a home that embodies restraint, cleanliness of mind, and mutual reverence for each other’s family and beliefs.
• Practical steps you can take:

- Seek a calm, structured conversation with both families where you outline your intentions, your commitment to ahimsa, and your plan to live ethically. - If she shares the same feelings, consider consulting a Jain elder or guru to receive guidance on how to approach spiritual and family aspects respectfully. - Reflect on readiness: a lifetime of daily choices (diet, conduct, vows) is easier when both partners are aligned in core values and in loving, non‑coercive partnership.

If you want, I can share a simple, authentic explanation of how Jain practice views marriage and daily conduct in the home, keeping to the traditional meaning and without blending with other beliefs. You can read more about these Jain principles in related JainKnowledge resources.