From a Jain Dharma perspective, the key is ahimsa (non-harm) and respect for all beings, along with modesty and consent in personal matters.

• Consent and comfort: Make sure both you and your spouse are fully comfortable and have clearly agreed to whatever you do. Mutual respect is essential.
• Private setting: Generally, private, intimate matters should be kept in a respectful and non-exploitive context. Public nudity or actions that could cause discomfort to others outside the relationship should be avoided.
• Non-discrimination: Jainism teaches respect for all beings. Treat your trans wife with dignity and kindness; focus on harmony and mutual well-being.

If you’re unsure, it’s best to discuss boundaries openly with your partner and align on what is acceptable for both of you.