Thank you for sharing this. From a Jain perspective, the core is ahimsa (non-harm) and respect for every individual as a living being with dignity and a path toward spiritual progress.

Key points to keep in mind:

• There isn’t a canonical Jain rule that condemns someone for being gay. The tradition emphasizes causing no harm, practicing truth with compassion, and living with integrity.
• For Jain householders, the focus is on respectful, non-harmful relationships and fulfilling one’s duties with fidelity and kindness. The specifics of how a same-sex relationship fits into dharma can vary in modern discussions, and many Jain teachers today emphasize personal integrity, consent, and ahimsa over rigid labeling.
• Your own safety, well-being, and consent are important. If you’re feeling confused, hurt, or unsure, seek guidance from a trusted Jain elder, guru, or spiritual counselor who can give you nuanced, tradition-appropriate advice.

Practical steps you can consider:

• Have an honest, compassionate conversation with your boyfriend about feelings, boundaries, and what you both want from the relationship, keeping non-harm and respect as guiding principles.
• Reflect on your own values and who you want to be in the relationship, keeping in mind Jain vows like non-violence, truthfulness, and integrity.
• If you’re unsure how to reconcile your relationship with your dharma, talking to a Jain teacher or elder can help you explore guidance rooted in the tradition.
• If the relationship brings harm or distress to you or others, consider steps to preserve safety and well-being, even if that means recalibrating the relationship.

If you’d like, I can share specific Jain texts or explanations (in simple terms) about how Jainism views relationships, duty, and ethical conduct.