In Jain dharma, anger and shouting are challenges to thePractice of ahimsa (non-violence) and maitri (friendliness). Here is a simple, grounded way to respond when someone shouts at you on purpose:

• Pause and breathe: Take a slow, deep breath to calm the mind. A moment of pause helps you choose your response rather than react in anger.
• Observe, don’t react: Notice your urge to respond, but don’t act on it. See the other’s words as external events, not as a reflection of your self-worth.
• Stay calm and kind: Respond with a steady, respectful tone. Even a brief, non- confrontational reply preserves peace and shows self-control.
• Practice detachment without indifference: Acknowledge what happened without letting it disturb your inner peace. This is the Jain practice of equanimity (upashama).
• Refrain from retaliation: Do not insult or harm in return. Violence, even verbal, breaks the vow of ahimsa and harms your own inner purity.
• Seek understanding or disengage if needed: If you can, gently ask for the reason behind the shout or calmly disengage to avoid further conflict.
• Pray or reflect: In Jain practice, mentally dedicate yourself to patience (kshama) and self-control. Remember that anger hurts the soul more than the other person.
• Follow up with compassionate action: If appropriate, offer forgiveness or help resolving the issue later, when emotions are cooler.
• Protect your boundaries: It’s okay to set clear, respectful boundaries. You can disengage respectfully and remove yourself from ongoing hostility.

Key mindset: cultivate kshama (forgiveness) and anukampa (compassion) even toward someone who shouts. The aim is inner cleanliness and non-violence, not winning an argument.

If you’d like, I can share short phrases you can use in the moment to keep your response calm and non-violent.