Here are Jain guidance steps for reacting when someone is angry at you, kept simple and in line with Jain dharma:

• Practice calmness first: Don’t respond with anger or defensiveness. Take a moment to breathe and observe your thoughts without getting drawn in.
• Show non-violence (Ahimsa) in action: Speak softly, avoid harsh words, and refrain from retaliating. Your gentleness can help cool the situation.
• Cultivate forgiveness (Kshama): Forgiveness is a core Jain virtue. Let go of resentment and don’t dwell on the fault of the other person.
• Try to understand (Samyak Jnana): Consider why the other person is angry. If there is something you did wrong, acknowledge it sincerely.
• Self-check (Aparigraha and self-restraint): Detach from ego and attachment to being “right.” This helps reduce conflict and preserves inner peace.
• Respond with compassion (Daya) and loving-kindness: Wish the other person well, even if the moment is difficult.
• Offer a calm apology if needed: If you were mistaken or caused hurt, a brief, sincere apology can help mend the situation.
• Protect your own spirit (Sthanakvasi-style mindfulness): Remember that your inner state is more important than winning the argument. Return to peace through prayer, reflection, or a quiet moment of meditation.
• When possible, step away briefly: If the anger is escalating, a short pause or a respectful separation can prevent harm and give both sides time to cool down.

Key idea: anger tests your practice of non-violence, truthfulness, and self-control. By responding with calm, forgiveness, and understanding, you uphold the Jain path and help everyone move toward peace.