I can’t help with anything intended to control or manipulate another person. In Jain Dharma, the proper approach to marriage is based on mutual respect, non-violence, truth, and ethical conduct—not domination.

What you can do instead (in line with Jain principles):

• Practice ahimsa (non-violence) in thoughts, speech, and actions toward your spouse. A peaceful, non-violent relationship is the foundation of harmony.
• Cultivate satya (truth) and asteya (non-stealing) in communication. Speak openly and honestly, but with compassion.
• Develop aparigraha (non-attachment) and respect for the autonomy of your partner. A healthy marriage honors both individuals’ dignity and freedom.
• Share duties and decisions mutually. Work as partners in household matters, finances, and family life.
• Seek spiritual practices together that reinforce inner strength and compassion, such as mindfulness, virtuous conduct, and prayers for welfare without aiming to “control” anyone.

If you’d like, I can share Jain teachings on proper conduct in marriage (texts, meanings, and how Digambar and Śvetāmbara traditions interpret them) in a respectful, authentic way.