“Pyar kya hota hai?” – isko bahut simple shabdon mein samjhte hain, Jain drishti se.

1. Do tarah ka “pyar” hota hai

1. Rāg wala pyar (aasakti / chippakna)

- Jab hum kisi vyakti ya vastu se chipak jaate hain - “Yeh mera hai, bina iske main reh nahi sakta” – aisa bhaav - Ismein chinta, darr, jalan, swarth, kabhi-kabhi gussa bhi aata hai - Jain dharm isko rāg kehta hai – jo bandh (karm judaai) ka kaaran banta hai

1. Dayā-bhav wala pyar (sahi shabd: maitri, karunā, madhyasthata)

- Sab jeevon ke liye shubh bhaav: - kisi ko dukh na dena - sabka bhala sochna - sabke prati shubh ichchhā rakhna - Ismein “mera–tera” kam hota hai, “sab mein atma hai” yeh samajh hoti hai - Jain dharm mein ise maitri, pramod, karunā, madhyasthata ke roop mein bataya gaya hai

2. Jain drishti se “sahi pyar” kya hai?

Jain dharm ke anusar sahi pyar wo hai:

• jo kisi ko baandhe nahi, azaad kare
• jahan hum doosre ke sharir, paisa, roop se nahi, atma se prem karein
• jahan humara uddeshya ho:

- dukh na dena - asatya, himsa, kapat mein na dhakelna - ek–doosre ko adhyatmik roop se upar uthne mein madad karna

Ye pyar adhikatar maitri-bhav ke roop mein samjhaya jata hai:

• “Sab jeev mere mitra hain”
• “Main kisi ke prati dvesh nahi rakhta”

3. Aam zindagi mein iska matlab

• Maa–baap ka pyar sahi hai, lekin agar wo bachche ko adhik moh mein bandh le, uska dharm, charitra bigadne de, to wo moh zyada ho gaya, shuddh pyar kam ho gaya.
• Dosti ya rishta bhi sahi hai, lekin:

- jahan jhooth, dhokha, possessiveness, jalan, atyadhik aasakti ho - waha ye suddh prem nahi, rāg-moh zyada hai

Sahi pyar mein:

• izzat hai
• maryādā hai
• satya aur ahimsa hai
• ek–doosre ki atma-unnati ka dhyan hai

4. Sankshipt mein

• Jo sirf mann ko chipka de, dard aur dar badhaye – wo rāg/moh hai.
• Jo sab jeevon ke liye daya, maitri, kshamā, aur bhala chahe – wo sahi pyar hai.

Yani, Jain dharm ke hisab se “pyar” ka uchch roop maitri aur karunā hai, jo atma ko bandhta nahi, balki halka karta hai.