“Girlfriend banani chahiye ya nahi?” Iska jawab sirf fashion, doston ya society dekh kar nahi, apni soch + zimmedari + dharm ko dekh kar dena chahiye.

Jain drishti se kuch baatein:

1. Umar aur uddeshya sabse important hai

- Agar tum student ho (school/college) to Jain dharm nazariye se: - Padhai, charitra, apne aap ko sudharna – ye sab zyada zaroori hai. - Is age mein “timepass” ya “just for fun” relationship aksar: - mann ko asantulit karte hain - asakti (attachment) badhate hain - jhooth, chhupana, paap ki shuruaat bana dete hain - Yahi kaaran hai ki Jain dharm brahmacharya (sanyamit jeevan) ko bahut mahatva deta hai, khas kar jawani mein.

1. Jain dharm kya sikhata hai?

- Aparigraha – kam se kam asakti, kam se kam “mera–mera”. - Brahmacharya / Sanyam – shareerik aur manasik indriya par niyantran. - Ahimsa – kisi ka dil dukhana, dhokha dena, emotions se khelna bhi ek tarah ki himsa hai.

Agar “girlfriend” sirf: - timepass, body attraction - doston ko dikhane ke liye - ya boredom door karne ke liye ho to ye Jain drishti se uchit nahi hai.

1. Grihasth ke roop mein sahi rasta kya hai?

Jab koi umar aur paristhiti se shaadi yogya ho jata hai, tab: - ek zimmedar, imaandaar, ek-patni vrat wali bhavna se sambandh banana - jeevan saathi ko samman, suraksha, satya, ahimsa par adharit jeevan dena ye grihasth dharm ka hissa hai.

Is drishti se: - “Character based, responsibility based” rishta theek hai - “Mauj–masti, chhupa chhupi, dhokhe” wale rishtay dharm se door le jaate hain.

1. Apne aap se seedhe sawal poochho

Tum sach mein kyun girlfriend chahte ho? - Akelapan door karne ke liye? - Physical attraction ke liye? - Ya kisi ko sacche man se respect, care, satya ke sath jeevan dene ki samajh hai?

Agar jawab sirf: - “Sabke hai, mujhe bhi chahiye” - “Timepass” - “Romance try karna hai” to Jain dharm ke hisaab se ye rasta tumhe neeche le jayega, upar nahi.

1. Practical salah (Jain soch ke sath)

- Abhi jawan ho to: - apne character, padhai, sadhana, self-control par kaam karo. - opposite gender ke saath maryada, samman, distance & decency rakho. - Jab jeevan mein stability, zimmedari aur shaadi ka samay aaye: - tab ek pavitra, imaandaar, dharmik jeevan saathi ka rasta socho. - Kisi bhi ladki ke emotions se mat khelo. Dil todna, jhooth bolna, dhokha dena – ye sab paap hai.

Saar: Jain dharm nazariye se, sirf trend, attraction ya timepass ke liye girlfriend banana uchit nahi hai. Apne aap ko sudharna, sanyam rakhna, aur aage chal kar ek pavitra, zimmedar, dharmik grihasth jeevan banana – ye adhik uttam rasta hai.