No, Jainism does not teach what was done to you.

What happened to you is painful, unjust, and deeply hurtful. But that behaviour is a failure of human character, not a teaching of Jain Dharma.

Let’s separate clearly:

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1. What Jainism actually teaches

For every Jain (even a householder), the core vows are:

• Ahimsa – not to hurt anyone in thought, word, or deed
• Satya – to speak truth, not to deceive or mislead
• Asteya – not to take what is not given (this includes wasting someone’s time and emotions through false promises)
• Brahmacharya – self‑control, faithfulness, purity in relations
• Aparigraha – non‑attachment, not to cling to ego, pride, or selfish desires ( en.wikipedia.org)

For a Jain who chooses marriage, Jain dharma expects:

• Honesty and clarity in relationships
• Mutual respect and responsibility
• Not playing with someone’s trust or emotions
• If something cannot go ahead, it should be told early, clearly, and kindly, trying to minimize hurt. ( jainknowledge.com)

So holding someone for 1.5 years, giving hope, and then suddenly denying marriage “without reason” is against:

• Ahimsa (it causes deep emotional himsa)
• Satya (lack of clear, truthful communication)
• Aparigraha (often driven by attachment to image, fear, or family pressure, not by real spiritual insight)

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2. Misuse of “atma ki awaaz” / “soul is saying this”

In Jainism, self-realisation (knowing the soul as distinct from body and mind) is a very high state, linked with Samyak Darshan (right faith). Ordinary people, still full of attachment, fear, family pressure, and confusion, cannot honestly claim that every sudden decision is the “voice of the pure soul.”

Often what people call:

• “My soul is saying this”

• Mind’s fear
• Social pressure
• Convenience
• Escaping responsibility

Using “atma” or “dharma” as a shield to avoid owning one’s actions is spiritually wrong and shows mithyātva (wrong belief), not Jain wisdom.

A genuine Jain response, if marriage truly cannot happen, would be:

• “I am very sorry. Because of XYZ reason (family, my own inability, etc.) I am not able to go ahead. I know this will hurt you, and I take responsibility. I pray for your happiness and will not blame ‘atma’ or ‘God’ for my decision.”

That is closer to satya + ahimsa.

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3. “Believing self to be God” – Jain view

Jainism teaches that every soul has the potential to become a Siddha (liberated one), but:

• Right now we are bound by karma, passions, ignorance.
• To claim “I am God” while still hurting others, lying, and breaking trust is opposite to Jain ideals.

A person who truly walks towards the pure soul:

• Becomes more humble, not more arrogant
• Takes more responsibility, not less
• Tries to reduce the suffering of others, not increase it

So using “I am soul / I am like God” while causing pain is spiritual ego, not Jain Dharma.

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4. Karma and your suffering

Jains do believe in karma, but karma theory is never a license to hurt others.

• My karmas explain why something happened to me,
• But they do not excuse the wrong behaviour of the other person.

In Jain view:

• They will face their own karmic results for deceit, emotional harm, and irresponsibility, unless they genuinely repent (pratikraman), change, and accept their fault.
• You will also heal and grow through your own inner strength and future good choices.

It is also important: Your pain is real and valid. Saying “this is your karma” in a cold way is not what Jain compassion teaches.

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5. Don’t judge Jain Dharma only by some Jains

Every religion has:

• Very sincere followers
• Confused followers
• Hypocrites who use religion as a mask

Jainism as a teaching is extremely strict on:

• Truthfulness
• Non-violence (including emotional hurt)
• Responsibility for one’s own actions

What you saw was a contradiction between:

• Their outer image (praying in sthanak, long puja, talking of karma)
• And their inner conduct (hurting someone without honest explanation)

Mahavira Bhagwan again and again emphasised “dharma = conduct”, not just “rituals.”

So, your earlier respect for Jainism was not wrong. Your hurt is from people misusing Jain identity, not from Jain Dharma itself.

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6. For your own healing (from a Jain perspective)

From a Jain-dharma angle, helpful steps for you can be:

1. Acknowledge your pain

What happened is not small. Allow yourself to feel it without blaming yourself.

1. Separate dharma from people’s weakness

Hold on only to those aspects of Jainism which are: - Compassionate - Truthful - Non-violent - Full of responsibility

1. Protect your self-respect

Their refusal without reason shows their lack of maturity and courage, not your lack of worth.

1. Channel this into growth

- Try to remain truthful and kind in your own future relationships. - Use this experience to sharpen your ability to see who actually lives dharma, not just talks about it.

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7. If you want to study what Jainism really says about marriage and responsibility

You can read more here:

• Jain view of marriage and responsibility within grihastha life
• Broader Jain perspective on ethics in marriage and relationships

In summary: No, Jainism does not support doing wrong to others “in the name of soul, karma, or God.” What you faced is against the very heart of Jain Dharma: ahimsa and satya.