In Jain Dharma, the answer is understood in terms of brahmacharya (celibacy / sexual restraint) and right conduct, not in terms of “allowed / not allowed” like a rule-book.

Very simply:

1. Ideal of Jain Dharma

- For monks and nuns: complete celibacy. Any kind of sexual activity (including oral sex / “bj”) is a clear violation. - For householders (shravaks/shravikas): limited, disciplined sex, only: - with one’s own lawful spouse - without violence, force, deceit, or perversion - without overindulgence and addiction to sensual pleasure

1. What about acts like oral sex (bj)?

In Jain view, this is: - a form of sexual indulgence - strongly driven by passion (kashaya) and sense-pleasure, which: - increases moha (delusion/attachment) - strengthens ashrav (inflow of karmas) So from the standpoint of vrat (vows) and spiritual progress, it is discouraged and considered wrong conduct, even between consensual partners, because it pulls the mind deeper into lust rather than towards restraint and purity.

1. For a young girl / woman specifically

Jain Dharma teaches: - ahimsa towards oneself also – not using one’s body as an object of gratification under pressure, trend, or emotional blackmail. - To protect one’s self-respect, modesty, and inner purity. - Any sexual act done: - without marriage, - under peer pressure, - for “experimenting” or fun, is against the spirit of Jain conduct and binds paap karma.

1. Short Jain perspective

- Spiritually uplifted path = control of senses, simplicity, and modesty. - Acts like “bj” = deepening sensuality, stronger karmic bondage, and moving away from the goal of moksha. Therefore, from a Jain dharmic view: No, a girl (or boy) should not do this if she/he wants to walk the path of true Jain values and protect inner purity.

If you want, I can explain how the small householder vow of brahmacharya is described for lay Jains in very simple language.