I’ll answer from a Jain dharmic view and also practical side. (If you share a little more detail later – e.g. “not following what?” – I can be more specific.)

For now, let’s take it as: “My Jain husband is not following Jain principles / maryada.”

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1. First understand the Jain standpoint

For a grihasth (householder) Jain, basic anuvrat to try to follow are:

• Ahimsa: no killing, no meat, no eggs, avoid alcohol, avoid unnecessary violence in thoughts, words, actions.
• Satya: no lies, no cheating.
• Achaurya: no stealing, no taking what is not given.
• Brahmacharya: loyalty to one spouse, control over passions.
• Aparigraha: simple living, avoid addictions and show-off.

Scriptures say: you can guide your family, but you cannot force anyone. Each soul has its own karmas and own pace.

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2. What you should not do

From Jain drishti:

• Do not develop dvesh (hatred): Constant anger/insult/taunts will bind heavy paap for you also.
• Do not use dharm as a weapon: “If you really were Jain, you would…!” – this hurts and creates resistance.
• Do not force rituals: Forced pooja, forced upvas, forced rules usually create aversion, not bhakti.

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3. What you can do, step by step

1. Improve your own practice first

- Become a calm, kind, soft-spoken Jain at home. - When he sees that dharm is making you more peaceful, more loving, he is more likely to respect it.

1. Gentle, non‑judgmental discussion

- Choose a calm time. - Speak about your feelings, not his faults: - “When you drink / eat non‑veg, I feel very disturbed because of ahimsa.” - “I wish we could keep our home more according to Jain values.” - Listen also. Maybe he has bad company, stress, habits, or past experiences with “forced religion”.

1. Agree on minimum common rules at home

Even if he is not fully following Jain dharm, many husbands agree to at least: - No meat/eggs cooked at home. - No alcohol kept in the house. - Respect for your pooja, pratikraman, upvas (no disturbance, no mocking). - Basic honesty and fidelity.

1. Use positive influence, not fear

- Share small, inspiring Jain stories, not big lectures. - Invite him casually to a pravachan, temple visit, or online Jain talk: “Come with me once, if you like it we’ll continue, if not I won’t force.” - Appreciate any small good step he takes (e.g., eating veg one day, coming to temple once).

1. Protect your own vows

- Even if he does not follow, you can still keep your anuvrat. - Politely but firmly say “I cannot do this; it goes against my Jain dharm” when something clearly violates basic principles (e.g., pressuring you to eat non‑veg, lie, or drink).

1. See the karma view

- “I am facing a situation according to my own karmas. My duty is to respond with samyata (restraint), not with anger.” - Your patience, compassion, and steadiness in dharm can slowly change the atmosphere and his bhav.

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4. If the situation is serious

If his “not following” includes:

• violence, abuse, addiction, or
• affairs / cheating, or
• forcing you to break Jain principles,

then:

• Take help of wise Jain elders, family, or a trusted guru.
• Protect your safety and dignity first – Jain dharm never tells you to silently tolerate physical or severe mental abuse.
• Try counseling (with someone who understands Jain values) if possible.

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5. Short essence

• You cannot change your husband by anger or force.
• You can strongly influence him by:

- your own peaceful conduct, - loving conversation, - clear but gentle boundaries, - and sincere prayer for his right understanding.

If you tell me in one line what exactly he is “not following” (food? alcohol? pooja? violence? affairs?), I can give very precise Jain‑based steps for that specific issue.