In Jain दृष्टि, this happens because the soul is pure in its true nature, but we are presently identified with the mind, ego, and karmic body.

Even when we intellectually know that outside approval should not matter, attachment to the ego-sense still remains. We want validation because:

• Mohanīya karma clouds right understanding and creates delusion.
• The ego wants to feel “I am important,” “I am accepted,” or “I am correct.”
• The mind seeks security from others’ opinions because it is still influenced by raaga-dveṣa.
• We may understand the soul’s purity at the level of knowledge, but have not yet fully realized it in conduct and experience.

So the truth is:

• The soul is indeed pure.
• But the empirical self, bound by karma, still experiences weakness, comparison, and dependency on praise.

In Jain practice, the remedy is not self-hatred, but steady awareness:

• remember, “I am the soul, not the praise or blame.”
• reduce attachment to reputation.
• cultivate samyak darshan, self-restraint, and equanimity.
• practice seeing approval and criticism with the same calmness.

Over time, as karmic bondage weakens, the need for validation also decreases. Then one rests more naturally in the soul’s own nature: knowledge, bliss, and purity.