In Jain Dharma, loving your mother deeply is natural, but if the feeling is mixed with “she is mine” or possessiveness, then it becomes attachment (rāga / moha).

Simple distinction:

• Affection with purity:

You care for her, serve her, respect her, and wish for her well-being, without clinging.

• Attachment:

You feel, “she belongs to me,” “I cannot be without her,” or you become disturbed by fear, dependence, or possessiveness.

In your words:

If your mother means the world to you, that can be good human affection. But if you are also thinking “not my ness”, that shows awareness of non-possessiveness, which is very close to Jain detachment.

So the pure Jain view is:

• Care and respect = good
• Possession and clinging = attachment

Best Jain way:

Love her through:

• seva,
• gratitude,
• respect,
• compassion,

but keep the inner understanding: “She is an independent soul, and I am also an independent soul.”

That is the balance of bhakti with vairagya.