Answer

Speak to them with respect, softness, and understanding — not with judgment. In Jain Dharma, the goal is not to prove someone wrong, but to help them remember the values of ahimsa, aparigraha, satya, and self-discipline in a loving way.

A good way is to say:

• “You are Jain by tradition, and Jainism also invites us to practice Jain values in daily life.”
• “Even small steps matter.”
• “I am not criticizing you; I just want to share why these practices are meaningful to me.”

Explanation

If someone is Jain but not following many Jain practices, avoid saying:

• “You are not a real Jain.”
• “You are doing everything wrong.”
• “You must follow everything immediately.”

Instead, try this approach:

• Start with what they already respect.
• Explain Jainism as a way of life, not just an identity.
• Focus on one or two important principles at a time.
• Give practical examples from daily life.

For example:

• Ahimsa: reducing harm in thoughts, words, and actions.
• Aparigraha: living with less greed and attachment.
• Anekantavada: respecting different viewpoints.
• Self-restraint: choosing awareness over impulse.

You can say:

• “Jainism is not only about birth or community; it is about daily conduct.”
• “Even if we cannot be perfect, we can still move closer to Jain values.”
• “The path is gradual, and sincere effort is valuable.”

Spiritual Understanding

In Jain Dharma, compassion is very important. When we guide others, we should do it in a way that reduces ego and increases awareness. Harsh correction often creates resistance, while gentle teaching creates reflection.

Also, Jainism understands that people are at different stages. So the purpose is not to shame them, but to inspire them toward right conduct and inner purification.

Takeaway

Explain Jainism with love, patience, and example. Be firm about the values, but gentle with the person. The best teaching is often a calm life that itself reflects Jain principles.

If you want, I can also help you with a short speech or message you can say to them in a respectful way.