Answer

Speak to him with calmness, love, and dignity — not shame. In Jain Dharma, this is best taught as a matter of self-control, awareness, and brahmacharya.

Explanation

You can tell him something like:

• “In Jainism, we try to reduce indulgence and strengthen self-restraint.”
• “Your energy and mind are precious — use them for study, service, prayer, and spiritual growth.”
• “Desire is natural, but we learn to control it, not be controlled by it.”

Important points:

• Do not scold or humiliate him.
• Do not make him feel dirty or worthless.
• Teach that Jain practice is about purifying the mind, not creating guilt.
• If he is older, explain that brahmacharya means guarding the senses and living with restraint.
• If he is younger, keep the conversation simple and age-appropriate.

Spiritual Understanding

In Jainism, attachment to sense pleasures increases bondage. Self-restraint helps weaken passions like desire, restlessness, and obsession. The aim is not repression through fear, but gentle discipline and inner purity.

A compassionate Jain approach is:

• understanding the habit,
• encouraging awareness,
• supporting good routines,
• and guiding him toward higher values.

Takeaway

Tell him with love: “Jain Dharma teaches restraint, not shame. You can learn to guide your energy toward peace and spiritual strength.”

If you want, I can also help you phrase this in a simple, gentle way you can say directly to him.