Answer

No, you did not do anything wrong by choosing not to worship or hold the murti, if your intention was based on your Jain faith and not disrespect.

In Jain Dharma, the highest worship-worthy beings are the Panch Parmeshthi:

• Arihant
• Siddha
• Acharya
• Upadhyay
• Sadhu/Sadhvi

So it is natural and correct for a Jain to keep Panch Parmeshthi as the supreme objects of reverence.

Explanation

There is a difference between:

• Respecting someone
• Worshipping someone as spiritually supreme

As a Jain, you can respectfully acknowledge Shri Krishna as a revered figure in Hindu tradition, without accepting him as your object of worship. Jain Dharma teaches anekant, humility, and non-hurting speech, so we should not insult anyone’s faith or deity. But at the same time, you are not required to perform worship that does not align with Jain samyak darshan.

Your refusal would be wrong only if it came with ego, hatred, insult, or contempt. But if you simply said, “I respect, but I do not worship,” then that is not wrong.

Spiritual Understanding

In Jain Dharma, true worship is directed toward those who have conquered attachment and aversion and show the path to liberation. The Panch Parmeshthi are worshipped because they represent the path of moksha.

So your inner clarity that “I worship Panch Parmeshthi” is spiritually appropriate in Jain tradition.

At the same time, be gentle with your cousin. She is a child and may be acting out of innocence and devotion. You can lovingly say:

“I respect your bhakti, but in Jain Dharma we worship Arihant Bhagwan, Siddha Bhagwan, and Panch Parmeshthi. So I will not worship this murti, but I will never disrespect it.”

Takeaway

You did not do wrong if your intention was respectful. A Jain should remain firm in devotion to Panch Parmeshthi, while also being humble and respectful toward others’ beliefs.