Answer

Yes, it is okay to say “I love you” to your boyfriend during Paryushan, if it is said with purity, respect, and emotional honesty.

Paryushan does not require you to become harsh, cold, or emotionally distant. It is a time to make your feelings more pure, gentle, and non-attached.

Explanation

In Jain Dharma, Paryushan is a sacred time for:

• self-reflection
• forgiveness
• control over passions
• reducing attachment and ego
• practicing compassion and inner purity

Saying “I love you” is not wrong by itself. What matters is the inner intention.

It is spiritually better if your love is expressed as:

• care without possessiveness
• kindness without expectation
• respect without attachment becoming overwhelming
• support for each other’s good qualities and spiritual growth

Spiritual Understanding

During Paryushan, one should avoid strengthening strong passions such as excessive attachment, lust, anger, jealousy, or dependency. But expressing affection in a calm, respectful, and pure way is not against Jain values.

You may also say something like:

• “I care for you and wish well for your soul.”
• “I love you with respect and good intentions.”
• “Michhami Dukkadam if I have hurt you knowingly or unknowingly.”

Takeaway

It is okay to say “I love you” during Paryushan, as long as it comes from purity, respect, and compassion—not from attachment, desire, or possessiveness.