Answer

During Paryushan, a Jain should ideally practice greater sanyam (self-restraint), including restraint in physical intimacy. So, romantic touching, hugging with passion, kissing, or sexual relations should be avoided during Paryushan.

A simple, respectful touch in normal family interaction is not usually treated the same as sensual contact, but the spirit of Paryushan is to reduce attachment and desires as much as possible.

Explanation

Paryushan is a time for:

• Self-purification
• Forgiveness
• Fasting and tapasya
• Pratikraman
• Control over senses
• Reduction of worldly pleasures

In Jain Dharma, householders are not expected to live exactly like monks, but during sacred periods like Paryushan, they are encouraged to observe higher discipline.

So the recommended approach is:

• Avoid sexual activity completely.
• Avoid romantic or sensual hugging/touching.
• Keep affection respectful, calm, and non-sensual.
• Use this period to strengthen spiritual connection and self-control.

Spiritual Understanding

The purpose is not to reject your wife or reduce love. Rather, it is to transform love from physical attachment into respect, kindness, forgiveness, and spiritual support.

A couple can use Paryushan to help each other in:

• Pratikraman
• Samayik
• Fasting
• Reading Jain teachings
• Asking forgiveness from each other

Takeaway

Yes, normal respectful interaction is okay, but during Paryushan, it is best to avoid sensual touching, passionate hugging, kissing, and sexual relations, and practice greater brahmacharya and sanyam.