Answer

In Jain Dharma, when attraction arises, do not hate yourself and do not follow the feeling blindly. Recognize it calmly and turn the mind toward self-control, purity, and awareness.

You can do this:

• Pause immediately and become aware: “This is a passion of the mind.”
• Do not keep looking again and again.
• Move your attention to your breathing, Navkar Mantra, or your purpose of going out.
• Remember the soul: “I am a soul, not this body and not these desires.”
• Avoid imagination because attraction becomes stronger when the mind repeats it.
• Pray for inner purity and continue your work peacefully.

Explanation

Feeling attraction can happen because of attachment and past habits of the mind. In Jain Dharma, the problem is not only the outside person; the main work is to control our own raag and kaam-vikaar.

If you feel attraction, you should not think:

• “I am a bad person.”
• “I cannot control myself.”
• “Now everything is ruined.”

Instead, think:

• “This is a temporary thought.”
• “I do not have to act on it.”
• “I can bring my mind back.”

A useful practice is:

• Look away respectfully.
• Take a slow breath.
• Recite Navkar Mantra mentally.
• Walk away or focus on your duty.

Spiritual Understanding

Jain Dharma teaches that passions bind karma. Attraction, if allowed to grow into fantasy, craving, or wrong action, increases bondage. But if you observe it and restrain it, that becomes a step toward samyam.

For laypeople, complete celibacy may not always be their vow, but self-control, purity of thought, and respectful conduct are very important. For monks and nuns, brahmacharya is complete and strict.

The goal is not fear, guilt, or suppression with anger. The goal is awareness and detachment.

Takeaway

When attraction arises, do not feed it with repeated looking or imagination. Pause, remember the soul, recite Navkar Mantra, and move your mind toward purity. Each time you control the mind, you become spiritually stronger.