Answer

In Jain Dharma, the central question is not whether attraction is toward a boy or a girl, but whether one is increasing rāga attachment, kāma sexual passion, and hiṁsā harm.

Sexual feelings themselves can arise due to past karmas and mental tendencies. Jainism teaches us to observe them carefully, not hate ourselves for them, and gradually reduce attachment and passion.

For a Jain layperson, sexuality is guided by brahmacharya-vrata according to one’s stage of life and vows. For monks and nuns, complete celibacy is required.

Explanation

Jainism places strong emphasis on:

• Ahimsa — not harming oneself or others
• Brahmacharya — control of sexual desire
• Sanyam — self-restraint
• Aparigraha — reducing attachment and possessiveness

So Jain Dharma does not encourage indulgence in sexual passion, whether heterosexual or homosexual. From the spiritual viewpoint, sexual desire is a form of attachment that binds karma and distracts the soul from purity.

At the same time, Jainism also teaches compassion. Having such feelings does not make you evil, impure, or outside Jain Dharma. The path is to become more aware, restrained, honest, and non-harmful.

Spiritual Understanding

A Jain approach would be:

• Do not hate yourself for the feelings.
• Do not act in ways that harm, exploit, deceive, or create obsession.
• Practice restraint according to your vows and capacity.
• Reduce lustful thoughts through prayer, svādhyāy, meditation, and satsang.
• If you are a layperson, live with responsibility, honesty, and self-control.

The ideal of Jain Dharma is purification of the soul. Therefore, all sexual passion is ultimately something to be reduced, not strengthened.

Takeaway

Your attraction does not make you rejected by Jain Dharma. But Jainism encourages you to handle all sexual feelings with self-restraint, non-harm, honesty, and gradual movement toward brahmacharya.