Answer

You both should approach his parents with patience, humility, and respect for Jain values. Since his family strictly follows Jainism, the most important thing is to show them that you respect their Dharma, their lifestyle, and their expectations for their son’s married life.

Explanation

In Jain families, especially strict ones, parents may worry about:

• Whether the daughter-in-law will respect Jain food rules such as vegetarianism, no root vegetables in some families, and avoiding food after sunset.
• Whether future children will be raised with Jain values.
• Whether religious practices like Paryushan, Samayik, Pratikraman, temple visits, fasting, and ahimsa-based living will be respected.
• Whether family harmony will remain strong after marriage.

To convince them, you can do the following:

• Do not argue or pressure them. Jain Dharma values humility, patience, and non-violence not only in action but also in speech and attitude.
• Learn about Jain way of life sincerely. Understand ahimsa, vegetarianism, aparigraha, satya, Paryushan, and basic Jain customs.
• Be clear about what you are willing to follow. If you are ready to maintain a fully vegetarian home, respect Jain festivals, and support their son’s religious practices, say it honestly.
• Let the son speak first. He should respectfully explain that this relationship is serious, dharmic, and based on mutual respect, not rebellion.
• Involve elders calmly. A respected elder, family friend, or community person who understands both families may help create trust.
• Visit them respectfully. Your behavior, simplicity, speech, and willingness to understand their culture will matter more than arguments.
• Discuss future expectations clearly. Food habits, religious practices, children’s upbringing, festivals, family responsibilities, and household lifestyle should be discussed honestly.

Spiritual Understanding

From a Jain perspective, marriage should support a life of peace, restraint, compassion, and spiritual growth. If both of you can build a home based on ahimsa, truthfulness, respect, and self-discipline, that will be more meaningful than only sharing the same community label.

At the same time, his parents’ concerns should not be dismissed. For them, Jain Dharma may not be just a belief, but a complete way of life. So they need to feel that their son’s spiritual path will not be weakened after marriage.

Takeaway

Do not try to “convince” them by force. Try to build trust. Show genuine respect for Jain Dharma, be honest about what you can follow, and allow time for their hearts to soften. If your relationship is mature, respectful, and aligned with good values, present it with patience and humility.