Answer

In Jain Dharma, if a person had past relationships before marriage but they were not physical, the main thing is to develop inner purity, honesty, and self-restraint going forward.

If the relationship is truly in the past, the person should:

• Accept it as part of the past without hiding from oneself.
• Let go of attachment, memories, comparison, or emotional dependence.
• Be sincere and faithful in the present marriage.
• Practice self-control in thoughts, speech, and actions.
• If there was any deception, emotional harm, or wrong intention, sincerely repent and resolve not to repeat it.

Explanation

Jain Dharma gives great importance to Brahmacharya — purity and restraint. For a married person, this means loyalty, moderation, and purity within married life.

Even if there was no physical relationship, one should be careful about:

• Emotional attachment to someone other than one’s spouse
• Secret communication
• Comparison with the past
• Thoughts that disturb marital loyalty
• Dishonesty or hiding things that may affect trust

The past cannot be changed, but the present can be purified.

Spiritual Understanding

From a Jain perspective, bondage of karma happens not only through physical action, but also through intentions, attachment, passion, and mental involvement.

So the focus should be on:

• Pratikraman — repentance for any wrong thoughts, words, or actions
• Pratyakhyan — firm resolution not to repeat mistakes
• Samayik — calming the mind and strengthening equanimity
• Faithfulness — living with honesty and responsibility in marriage

Takeaway

If the past relationship was non-physical, the person should not live in guilt unnecessarily. But they should sincerely let go of past attachment, remain truthful, practice restraint, and live faithfully in the marriage with a pure mind.