then dream to become successfull in life and earn money so that family lives freely and also societies past disrespectfull bahiviour towards my parents feels like i want to gain them respect on day i become succesfull and earn money is it wrong to think
Answer
No, it is not wrong to want to become successful, earn money, support your family, and bring respect to your parents.
In Jain Dharma, earning money honestly and caring for family is acceptable for a householder. But the inner intention matters a lot.
Explanation
Your feeling has two parts:
- Good intention: You want your family to live freely and comfortably. You want your parents to receive respect. This is a noble feeling.
- Pain-based intention: You also feel hurt by society’s past disrespect and want to prove yourself. This is understandable, but it can slowly turn into anger, ego, or revenge if not handled carefully.
Jain Dharma teaches that a person should work hard, live responsibly, and earn through right means, but should avoid:
- greed
- ego
- revengeful thinking
- attachment to status
- hurting others for personal success
So the goal is not wrong. But purify the emotion behind the goal.
Instead of thinking:
- “I will become successful so society feels ashamed.”
Think:
- “I will become capable, honest, disciplined, and successful so I can serve my parents, live with dignity, and do good for others.”
That change makes the same dream spiritually healthier.
Spiritual Understanding
In Jain Dharma, true respect comes not only from money, but from:
- right conduct
- truthfulness
- non-violence
- humility
- self-control
- compassion
Money can give comfort, but character gives real honor.
If you become successful with humility, honesty, and kindness, then your parents will feel true pride. Even if society once disrespected them, your peaceful and noble life can become a strong answer.
Takeaway
Your dream is not wrong. Just make sure your success is guided by dharma, not anger.
Earn well, serve your parents, stay humble, avoid revenge, and let your good character become the real respect your family receives.