Answer

I am sorry you are feeling so low. According to Jainism, when relationships hurt us, the path is to protect our inner peace, avoid hatred, and respond with forgiveness, patience, and self-awareness.

You cannot control whether cousins or friends talk to you, but you can control your own thoughts, words, and conduct.

Explanation

Jain Dharma teaches:

• Ahimsa in thoughts: Do not keep burning anger, revenge, or harsh labels in the mind.
• Kshama: Practice forgiveness, even if the other person does not understand you.
• Samata: Try to stay balanced in praise and insult, closeness and distance.
• Aparigraha: Reduce emotional attachment and expectation from people.
• Right speech: If you speak, speak gently, truthfully, and at the right time.

It is natural to feel hurt when cousins or friends change. But Jainism reminds us that every soul has its own karma, nature, and understanding. Sometimes people act according to their own confusion, ego, or karmic bonds. Their behavior should not destroy your peace.

What You Can Do

• Do not chase everyone repeatedly. Keep dignity and calmness.
• Send one simple peaceful message if you feel it is right: “If I have hurt you in any way, I am sorry. I wish peace between us.”
• Do pratikraman in your heart: Reflect if you made any mistake, ask forgiveness, and forgive them also.
• Avoid calling them “snake” in your mind. Even if they hurt you, such thoughts increase your own pain and karma.
• Focus on your own character. Be kind, calm, truthful, and steady.
• Spend time in swadhyay, prayer, or chanting Namokar Mantra. It can calm the mind.

Spiritual Understanding

In Jainism, painful relationships are also a place for spiritual growth. They teach us to reduce attachment, expectation, anger, and ego. Forgiveness does not mean allowing people to hurt you again and again. It means you free your own soul from hatred.

You may keep distance from people who disturb your peace, but keep your heart free from bitterness.

Takeaway

Be gentle, but do not lose yourself. Forgive, but do not beg for attention. Keep your conduct pure, pray for inner strength, and let relationships improve naturally with time.

If your sadness feels too heavy or you feel unsafe with your thoughts, please speak to a trusted family member, elder, teacher, or counselor immediately. Jain Dharma values life deeply, and your peace and well-being matter.