I’ll share a simple, Jain-dharma–aligned way to approach this, so you can honor your parents and also be truthful about your relationship.

Core Jain principles to keep in mind

• Satya: be fully truthful and transparent with everyone.
• Ahimsa: avoid hurt in words, tone, and decisions; keep the focus on compassion.
• Anekantavada: acknowledge and respect many viewpoints, especially your parents’ concerns.
• Aparigraha/Sayyam: show restraint, patience, and willingness to adjust.

Step-by-step plan 1) Do your inner homework

• Be clear about your non‑negotiables as a Jain: lifelong vegetarian (ideally no eggs), no alcohol, no tobacco, care for living beings, supporting Paryushan/Das Lakshan, pratikraman, temple/puja, and charity (panjrapole, etc.).
• Discuss these calmly with your partner. Ensure she is willing to respect these in daily life and in the shared home.

2) Prepare a respectful “sankalp” (commitment note)

• Write a short, humble note you can share with your parents. Include:

- Both of you will keep a pure vegetarian home (and, if your family follows it, willingness to avoid root vegetables at least at home and during Jain festivals). - No alcohol or non‑veg at any family function. - Support for Jain festivals: Paryushan/Das Lakshan, Ayambil Oli, Samvatsari/Kshamapana. - Willingness to visit derasar together and keep basic maryada (dress modestly, remove leather, etc.). - Openness to guidance from elders/scholars and to learn Jain practices.

3) First speak to your parents alone, with shraddha

• Share your sankalp, explain her good qualities (daya, satya, discipline), not just “we love each other.”
• Emphasize that dharmic lifestyle in the new home will be Jain-friendly and peaceful.
• Keep your tone very soft; avoid ultimatums. If they need time, accept it.

4) Arrange a dignified meeting

• When your partner meets them, keep it simple and sanskari. Let her speak for herself about:

- Willingness to keep ahimsa‑based diet and home rules. - Respect for your parents and Jain traditions. - Readiness to learn basic Jain prayers/ritual etiquette.

5) Seek a trusted mediator

• If needed, request guidance from a respected Jain scholar/elder of your samaj who is balanced and compassionate. A calm third voice often eases fears.

6) Wedding and lifestyle assurances (these points calm many practical worries)

• Wedding functions strictly vegetarian, preferably without root vegetables and without alcohol.
• If your family observes “no food after sunset,” plan meals accordingly for the key days.
• Temple darshan/mangalik/blessings as part of ceremonies; simple, aparigrahi celebrations.
• Post‑marriage kitchen remains strictly vegetarian; separate utensils if that reassures elders.
• Festivals: you both will participate; fasting/uposhan can be supported by the household.
• Children’s sanskar: agree that basic Jain values and prayers will be taught at home with respect for both extended families.

7) Handle sensitive differences respectfully

• Ancestor rituals (e.g., shraddha) or other practices from her side: avoid criticism; gently keep ahimsa limits. Offer alternatives that don’t involve harm. You can be present respectfully without doing what conflicts with Jain vows.
• Surnames/caste labels: keep focus on dharma and joint family harmony, not titles.

8) Give time and keep doing punya

• Keep serving at home, speak sweetly, and continue small acts of seva/dana. Parents’ hearts soften when they see sincere, steady conduct.

Sample commitments you can share in writing

• “We will keep a 100% vegetarian home (no eggs/meat/fish).”
• “We will avoid alcohol/tobacco and not host such items at any function.”
• “We will honor Paryushan/Das Lakshan; both of us will support pratikraman on key days.”
• “We will celebrate simply, avoiding unnecessary show (aparigraha).”
• “We will seek blessings of elders and maintain respect in speech and behavior.”

What not to do

• Don’t argue about whose religion is “right.” Stay with common dharmic values: compassion, truth, discipline.
• Don’t pressure your parents with deadlines or threats. Jain way is gentle persuasion with patience.
• Don’t hide details. Satya builds trust.

If your parents still hesitate

• Continue patience and seva; request one more meeting after some weeks.
• Offer counseling with a respected Jain teacher who understands inter-community marriages.
• Keep your own conduct spotless; your vyavahar is your strongest argument.

This approach keeps faith with Jain dharma while creating space for acceptance.