I can help with a Jain perspective on these wishes. Here’s a simple, respectful approach you can consider.

Key points to keep in mind

• Quitting smoking: In Jainism, keeping the body clean and strong supports spiritual progress. A firm vow (samyak sankalpa) with practical steps (support from family, setting a quit date, using trusted cessation aids, and regular self-reflection) helps a lot.
• Marriage and family planning: In Jain ethics, actions should be based on consent, non-harm, truth, and right conduct. It is generally not appropriate to try to “block” a partner’s pregnancy; discussions with your partner and respecting her choices are essential. Contraception is a personal decision; if used, it should be mutual and ethical.
• Asking for guidance: In Swetambar Jain practice, you can humbly seek guidance and blessings from a trusted Jain guru or elder (maharaj, muni, or senior devout layperson). The request should be for strength to follow right conduct, clarity in life decisions, and harmony in relationships, not for manipulation of others.

A respectful way to prepare and ask for guidance 1) Self-reflection and vow

• Write down your commitments: “I, [your name], resolve to give up smoking from [date]. I will replace this habit with healthier routines and seek spiritual strength through regular samayik (meditation on the Jain path), pratikraman (confession/repentance) when I stumble, and sincere effort to live with ahimsa (non-harm) and satya (truth).”
• Include two concrete actions you’ll start right away (e.g., daily pranam/Namokar, a daily walk, or a small meditation).

2) Clarify your intentions (with humility)

• For health and livelihood: “Please bless me with strength and discipline to pursue a steady, ethical path that supports a good family life and a stable, honest livelihood.”
• For relationships: “Please grant me wisdom to build a respectful, truthful relationship with my partner, and guidance to navigate life’s decisions with consent, care, and non-harm.”

3) How to speak to the guru/maharaj

• Approach with bowing, a simple dress code of respect, and a quiet, sincere demeanor.
• Use clear, concise requests: “Maharaj, please bless me to quit smoking completely, to stay true to my vow, and to find the right path to a harmonious life with my partner and a good, honest livelihood.”
• Be open to guidance: listen carefully to any counsel given, such as reminders about right conduct, regular prayer/meditation, and healthy routines.

4) Practical support to go with spiritual practice

• Set a quit date and remove smoking cues (places, people, and times that trigger the habit).
• Tell a trusted friend or family member about your vow so they can support you.
• Replace the habit with Jain-friendly practices (short daily meditation, reading a verse, or a few minutes of reflection on ahimsa).
• If you have questions about contraception or family planning from a Jain ethics viewpoint, discuss openly with your partner and, if needed, a trusted elder who can offer compassionate, non-judgmental guidance.

5) About “8 years of smoking” and the “1st marriage with no hiccups” and salary

• Absolute, concrete steps help: set a quit date, track progress, celebrate milestones, and keep a daily quick reflection on how quitting aligns with your spiritual goals.
• For a successful marriage and good income, focus on ethical conduct, honesty, and effort in work and relationships. Prayer and meditative practice can support patience, focus, and resilience.

If you’d like, I can help you draft a short, respectful note you could say or write to a maharaj or elder, tailored to Swetambar Jain etiquette. I can also provide a simple, short Namokar-based prayer or a basic samayik outline you could use as part of your preparations.

Note: If you want, I can share a brief, Swetambar-appropriate outline of prayers or throat-clearing mantras commonly used in such supplications. I can also guide you on how to find a suitable Jain elder to speak with.