In Jain dharma, this situation is mainly about how you live after marriage, not about label “Jain vs Brahmin”.

I’ll break it into 3 parts:

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1. From Jain dharma point of view

• Scriptures do not say “you must only marry a Jain.”
• For a grihasth (householder), the key is:

- Ahimsa – no violence (especially in food: no meat, fish, eggs, alcohol, etc.). - Satya – honesty with both families. - Aparigraha & sayyam – simple, disciplined living.

• So, marrying a Hindu Brahmin girl is not against Jain dharma if:

- She is ready to support a Jain-ahimsa lifestyle. - Your own Jain practice is protected, not weakened.

You can also see a similar discussion here and here .

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2. Main issue in your case: food at home

You wrote: > “She wants to have non Jain (no non veg) at home. I am ok with it but my parents would prefer pure jain at home.”

So:

• She is already okay with pure vegetarian, no non‑veg at home – this is a big positive from Jain view.
• “Non Jain” here likely means:

- maybe onion–garlic, root vegetables, tea/coffee, etc. - not following all detailed Jain food rules.

What is ideal from a Jain standpoint?

1. Minimum himsa in the shared kitchen

- 100% vegetarian (no eggs, no meat, no fish, no alcohol). - If possible, gradually move towards: - no onion–garlic, - and at least some days / festivals without root vegetables.

1. Respect for parents’ “pure Jain home” wish

A practical middle path: - When your parents are staying with you or you are living together: - Keep the home strictly according to their maryada (no onion–garlic, no roots, no eggs, etc.). - When you and your wife are alone in your own house: - Maintain strict vegetarian, no eggs/no alcohol as non‑negotiable. - Discuss calmly whether she can: - avoid non‑Jain items at least on Jain festivals, Paryushan, special vrats, - slowly reduce onion–garlic / roots out of respect for your dharma.

1. If your parents live with you permanently

- Then it is kinder to keep the house as “Jain-style” as they wish, and: - If your wife wants onion–garlic sometimes, that could be taken outside, not cooked at home. - This keeps: - Ahimsa in the kitchen, - Peace in the family.

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3. How to talk to your parents & to her

With your parents

Speak very softly and clearly:

• Accept their concern:

“Mara mate pan Jain dharm bau important che. Hu pan ahimsa na niyamo rakhi ne j nava ghar ma jivva manguchu.”

• Tell them the good points about her:

- she is Brahmin, already vegetarian, respects dharma, - is open to learning Jain customs.

• Make some written sankalp (commitments) like:

- Home will always be strictly vegetarian (no eggs, no alcohol, no meat/fish). - Paryushan / Das‑Lakshan, Samvatsari etc., will be observed. - No non‑veg allowed in the house, even for guests. - Children will be taught Jain prayers and values.

• Show them you are not leaving Jain dharma, you are trying to live it in this marriage.

There is a detailed step‑by‑step approach here (very close to your case) .

With your future wife

Have one calm, honest talk:

• Explain clearly what is non‑negotiable for you as a Jain:

- always veg, no eggs, no alcohol/tobacco at home, - respect for your parents and derasar, - support during Paryushan, Ayambil Oli, etc.

• Ask what is most important for her:

- Is onion–garlic daily a must? - Can she avoid it on some days? During Jain festivals? When parents are around?

• Try to reach a balanced agreement now, not after marriage.

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Simple guideline to remember

• Dharmic side:

- Inter‑community marriage is allowed if Jain values (especially ahimsa in food) are protected.

• Practical side:

- Keep home fully veg, no eggs/no alcohol – minimum Jain standard. - Adjust around onion–garlic/roots with mutual respect and according to who lives in the house.

If you sincerely keep Jain values at the center and speak with daya and vinay (respect) to both sides, this can become a good, dharmic grihasth life.