If someone does something to hurt you, what should be your response according to Jain dharma?
In Jain Dharma, the right response is to stop himsa (violence) and kashaya (anger, pride, deceit, greed) from arising in yourself. Practical guidance:
- Do not retaliate. Ahimsa is the highest duty. Hold your body, speech, and mind steady; choose non‑hurtful action.
- Practice Uttam Kshamā (forgiveness). From your side, release enmity and keep maitri (friendliness) for all: “Khamemi savve jive… veram majjham na kenai.” If possible, calmly say “Micchāmi Dukkadam.”
- Guard speech. If you must speak, speak truth gently and briefly; otherwise, prefer silence until inner calm returns. This protects from fresh karmic bondage.
- Do Pratikraman. Reflect on any fault on your side (even in thought), do ālochana (confession), and take pratyakhyān (restraint) so the cycle does not repeat.
- Keep the four bhāvanās toward others: maitri (friendliness), pramod (appreciation of the virtuous), karunā (compassion toward the afflicted), madhyasthā (equanimity toward the obstinate). These dissolve hatred at its root.
- For householders: protect yourself or others only to the minimum necessary, without hatred or revenge, and with full carefulness; premeditated harm is never allowed.
Essence: Choose non‑violence, forgive within, keep equanimity, and correct yourself through pratikraman. This stops new karma and preserves the purity of your soul.